LESSONS FROM DAD… part 4…
I think I don’t think my message is complete without speaking to the children and the wives in this room.
Children, if there is ONE thing you can change about your attitude toward your Dad, today is good day to change it. Here is an example… from this day on I will be more respectful to Dad. From this day on I will do homework first before gaming. From this day on I will not sulk if Dad says no. From this day on I will keep my room neat.
God will show you what you need to change and all I ask is that you try to change just one thing starting today.
Wives and Moms… Dad cannot rule his kingdom if you are being bossy. You are not the King. He is. You are the Queen. Know your place. You were built by God to help him. Your are under your husband’s authority.
I struggled with this too – I am a very fiery woman I think you can see. But I obeyed God and now I share my happy castle with such a wonderful King who is gentle and wise.
Let your husbands make the final decision. Give him advice but don’t force him to follow you. He must be secure that you will support him 100% even when he is wrong.
For example – You are both driving to a party. He thinks the house is after the next left turn. But you know it’s after the next right turn. You tell him so, but he insists on the left turn. It’s OKAY. Let him turn left. When he discovers that the party is not there, turn to him and say, it’s okay darling, we all make mistakes, I love you.
Of course if a man’s decision involves something immoral, then you need to seek counseling. Talk to your pastor. But if we’re talking about everyday decisions about money, schooling, house rules etc. then give your husband the reins. God will honor you mightily and your home will be ruled a wonderful King who is gentle and wise and you will be his help.
Let me end with a story of how my husband showed me the meaning of grace:
We were organizing an event one day and my husband had to be there early. So he left the house in the morning with the kids and helpers. I stayed behind to do a few things. At noon, I took a shower – biglang nag-brown out. Eh, our water was electricity driven so the water stopped. Buti nalang I was almost finished – konti nalang the soap on my body. I dried up, dressed up, left the house and went to our event.
It was a whole day affair which ended at 11pm. By the time we got home it was midnight and we were all exhausted. But when we opened the door to our apartment, water rushed out!
I forgot pala to turn off the shower. Eh the electricity went back on around 2pm. So the water was running from 2pm to 12mn… 10 hours straight! Since our bathroom was on the second floor, we had a waterfall going down our stairs. Baha ng mga 2 inches ang first and second floors namin.
I felt like the biggest fool on earth. But you know what? My husband did not say one bad word to me. He didn’t even give me an evil look. He just quickly mobilized the helpers and the kids and said, okay guys, our day is not over yet, let’s clear up this house. It took us 5 hours to dry the house and throughout that 5 hours my hubby kept comforting me and saying, It’s okay honey, we all make mistakes, I love you.
THAT IS GRACE!
Let’s practice grace right now. Wives, turn to your husbands and say – It’s okay honey, we all make mistakes. I love you!
Now, it’s the turn of the husbands – turn to your wives and say – It’s okay honey, we all make mistakes. I love you.
Remember to practice grace not just today but every day.
Happy Father’s Day!
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Joyce,
I remember meeting your dad once or twice…once in a party (army navy club) and another at your place in Manila. I remember distinctly because my friends and I met an accident right after we dropped you off…or was it before we arrived at your place.
It is a very touching piece you just shared with us. Made me think of the lessons I’ve learned or my dad taught me. I am blessed to hear that Ron has such a gentle spirit, you truly are blessed. God bless you and your family more and more.
Jorev
HI there!!! I hope everyone survived that accident. I hate accidents and always pray that God keeps us safe from them. HOping all is well with your family, warm hugs to you!